Trauma Therapy in Colorado
Something Happened. Why Does It Still Feel Like Part Of Your Life?
Maybe what happened is over.
You know that.
Your body doesn't always seem to have gotten the memo.
A certain tone of voice makes your stomach drop. Someone doesn't text back and your mind immediately goes somewhere terrible. Conflict makes you want to shut down, get out, or fix everything as quickly as possible.
Maybe you're constantly paying attention to everyone else's mood. You walk into a room and immediately notice who seems irritated, who's uncomfortable, and whether something feels “off.”
Or maybe you avoid thinking about what happened altogether.
You're getting through life. You're working, maintaining relationships, taking care of people, and doing all the things you're supposed to do.
But part of you still feels like it's bracing for something.
Trauma Doesn't Always Look The Way You Think It Does
You don't have to experience constant flashbacks or think about the past every day for an experience to continue affecting you.
Sometimes it looks like overthinking everything you said after a conversation.
Sometimes it's needing to know exactly what's going to happen because uncertainty feels unbearable.
It can look like keeping people at a distance even though you desperately want connection. Saying “I'm fine” because needing someone feels uncomfortable. Avoiding conflict at all costs or becoming intensely activated when conflict happens.
You might even minimize what you've experienced:
“Other people had it worse.”
“It wasn't that big of a deal.”
“That happened years ago.”
“I should be over this.”
And yet your reactions keep telling you that something still needs your attention.
Trauma Therapy Can Help You Understand Why You're Still Reacting
Your reactions didn't appear out of nowhere.
At some point, your brain and body learned ways to help you respond to something difficult, frightening, painful, or overwhelming.
Those responses may have made sense then.
They may not be serving you in the same way now.
In trauma therapy, we can begin understanding the connection between what you've experienced and what's happening in your life today.
I draw from Trauma-Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (TF-CBT), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), attachment-based work, and elements of Internal Family Systems (IFS).
Depending on what you need, we might work on noticing patterns in your thoughts and reactions, understanding what triggers them, developing ways to feel more grounded when your body goes on alert, or becoming curious about the parts of you that learned they needed to protect you.
We don't have to force your story out of you.
And you don't have to tell me everything that has ever happened in your life during the first three sessions.
We start where you are.
Your Brain May Be Trying Really Hard To Keep You Safe
One frustrating thing about trauma responses is that they can show up when you're no longer in the situation that originally required them.
Your partner's frustrated tone isn't the person who hurt you.
An unanswered text isn't automatically bad news.
A disagreement doesn't necessarily mean someone is leaving.
Resting doesn't mean you've let your guard down and something terrible is about to happen.
You may understand all of that logically and still feel your body react before you've had time to think.
That disconnect can be exhausting.
Therapy can help you recognize what's happening in those moments and practice responding to what's happening now, rather than automatically reacting from what you've experienced before.
What Could Life Feel Like When You're Not Always Bracing?
Maybe someone is upset with you and you don't immediately assume the relationship is over.
You notice tension in your shoulders before you've spent the entire day carrying it.
You make a mistake without mentally preparing for the consequences.
You say no without spending hours worrying about how the other person feels about you.
You let someone get close without constantly looking for evidence that they'll eventually hurt you.
You rest.
Actually rest.
And when your mind tells you something bad is about to happen, you're increasingly able to recognize the thought without automatically treating it like a warning you have to obey.
But What If What Happened To Me Wasn't “Bad Enough”?
You don't have to compare your experience with someone else's before you're allowed to talk about it.
If something that happened continues to affect how you think, feel, relate to people, or move through your life, we can be curious about that.
You don't need to convince me that it was bad enough.
Will I Have To Talk About Everything That Happened?
You get to have a voice in how we approach your story.
Trauma therapy doesn't have to mean sitting down and immediately recounting every painful detail of your past.
Building trust matters.
Feeling safe enough to be honest matters.
We'll talk about what you're comfortable working on, what feels difficult, and what you need from the process.
What If Talking About It Makes Everything Worse?
It's understandable to worry about opening something you've worked hard to contain.
We don't have to open everything at once.
Part of our work can include developing ways to notice and respond to difficult emotions and physical reactions so you're not simply talking about painful experiences and then being left alone to manage what comes afterward.
Therapy can move at a pace that makes room for both honesty and care.
Virtual Trauma Therapy For Adults In Colorado
Maybe you've become very good at functioning around what happened.
You don't have to wait until everything falls apart before deciding you'd like things to feel different.
I'm Amanda Hayes, LPC, and I provide virtual trauma therapy for adults throughout Colorado. My style is warm, conversational, and down-to-earth. I want therapy to be a place where you can understand what happened and how it's affecting you without feeling like you're being reduced to the hardest thing you've lived through.
What happened can matter AND you can have a life that becomes bigger than what happened.
Ready to see if we're a good fit? Contact AK Hayes Therapy to schedule a consultation or learn more about starting virtual trauma therapy in Colorado.
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